If girl friendship is all you’re looking for, this is fine.Regardless of what led us to believe, men and women can actually be friends — and quite good ones. You may not only like this girl, but you might "like like" her as well.Even when I was starting to improve my approach with women, I could still find myself slipping back into old, bad habits. It’s the poor bastards in the last, the long-term friends, who have the hardest time.This took an especially sad (and ironic) turn when I let a case of Oneitis get the better of me and stayed “friends” with an ex in the hopes that I could stick it out long enough for another chance. Now years later and decidedly wiser for the experience, I’ve had fewer opportunities to escape the Friend Zone because, frankly, I’ve learned how to stay out of it in the first place. You have the force and weight of shared history working against you.Nothing’s more frustrating than being into a super hot guy, only to have him call you his buddy or some other non-romantic term. He’s treating you like one of the guys and talking about that cute girl he met last week and you just want to jump and scream, “Hey! ” If you play your cards right, you might just be able to grab his attention and get him to see you as more than a friend. If you start begging and pleading for him to give you a chance, you might lose him altogether. It’s amazing how a guy suddenly notices a woman as soon as she starts dating someone else. It doesn’t have to be anything overtly sexual, but make sure you’re giving off the right signals. It’ll change your friendship a little, but if you work slowly, his perception will change. If he turns you down, at least you know how he really feels and you can move on. You’ve given every obvious sign, but he’s still not responding how you want. He might be shocked at first, but if he’s in to you, he’ll respond.
Of course, you could also tell him you have a date later and didn’t want to have to go home to change. Go ahead and break out your little black dress and heels. Guys get distracted easily when they’re with their friends. The idea is to get him to pour out his heart to you. You’re both all mushy and the next thing you know, the two of you are tangled up together on the floor, ripping clothes off.
The reason guys love you is because you’re funny and fun to be around.
Now, I would never tell you to change, but maybe take it down a notch.
But the process of learning to avoid the Friend Zone also taught me how to escape it. Emotions have a mass and intertia of their own and it can be incredibly difficult to shift them into new directions.
And I have successfully leapt out of the friend zone several times, with old friends/crushes of long standing. Even more troubling, however, is the fact that your crush will have a mental image of who you are that’s tied up in how she responds to you emotionally – and this will have been reinforced through the months and years that you’ve been hanging out together.